The Twisted Sisterhood: Unraveling the Dark Legacy of Female Friendships - Rilegato

Valen, Kelly

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ISBN 10: 0345520513 ISBN 13: 9780345520517

Casa editrice: Ballantine Books, 2010

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You know all about the trouble with “mean girls” and competitive, judgmental women. Maybe you had a cruel high school experience straight out of the movie Carrie. Maybe you find yourself anxious because your daughter’s peers are excluding her. Maybe you’ve been harassed or marginalized by other females for being something they were or are not: fat, acne-prone, brainy, a different religion, too pretty, overconfident, a different kind of mother. Maybe you have a difficult female boss who is wreaking havoc on your ability to trust women in the workplace. And maybe you’ve shrugged it all off and figured: That’s just the way girls and women operate.

But have you ever considered what all this negativity is doing to us? The stories differ, and the consequences of our incivility range in severity, but one thing seems almost universal: Women carry powerful impressions and memories of their female-inflicted wounds. The hurt lingers.

In The Twisted Sisterhood, Kelly Valen picks up where her arresting New York Times essay about a painful sorority encounter left off. She pulls back the curtain on female relationships, revealing the troubling findings from her unique survey of more than three thousand women from all walks of life. Demonstrating the paradox of how we both support and sabotage one another, Valen’s research shows that although the vast majority of women report having at least one girl-friendship they wouldn’t want to live without, well over half approach female camaraderie with wariness or flat-out distrust and admit that they are unable—or unwilling—to extend themselves to certain types of women. An overwhelming majority say they have endured serious, life-altering knocks from other females, and a solid 97 percent of those polled believe it is crucial that we improve the female culture in this country.

Laying bare the legacy of the belittled “girl wars” across a woman’s life, The Twisted Sisterhood exposes the hidden, enduring, and widespread fallout of our manipulations and highlights our residual undercurrent of distrust. Capturing the true attitudes of modern women, Valen gives voice to the lingering memories, ambivalence, and struggles so many of us are quietly experiencing and considers the net effect of our darker habits: an increasingly inhospitable and dysfunctional society of women. Valen also looks to the future, offering hope and practical ideas for how girls and their mothers, women, and “sisters” can come together and improve their profoundly needed female connections.

No matter how content or supported you feel with your current circle of girlfriends, Valen explains, each of us holds a stake in helping foster a more mindful civility. Calling for a new normal in our relationships, her provocative and illuminating book is sure to spark a much-needed, meaningful dialogue that will inspire us to live and behave authentically for the betterment of our selves, our daughters, and the next generation of women.

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"The Twisted Sisterhood is a smart, savvy breakthrough look at the compelling, complex bonds that divide – and can ultimately unite – women of all ages and every culture."
—Leslie Morgan Steiner, editor of the anthology Mommy Wars and author of the bestselling memoir Crazy Love

“If you think you are alone in nursing a clique-inspired emotional wound, are wary of certain types of women, or are worried about your own daughter’s peer-group, you need to read this validating and important book. Kelly Valen’s research shows that many of us have been hurt deeply by a girlfriend and we often carry the lingering pain throughout our lives. In sharing the poignant voices of women from her study, Valen shows us that we are certainly not alone and she points a way toward civility, kindness and true sisterhood.”
—Rosalind Wiseman, author of the bestselling Queen Bees and Wannabees

"Kelly Valen has written a smart, sweeping book about at the ways women relate and given us all something to think about."
—Kelly Corrigan, New York Times bestselling author of The Middle Place and Lift

“This is a brave and deep book. Kelly Valen shares her own painful experience of exclusion and humiliation at the hands of ‘friends’ as well as the details of incidents she’s gathered in her research – the looks, gestures, gossip, and confrontations – that have wounded other hearts. Yet she shows us that it is the caring side of sisterhood that gives our relationships the power to hurt. She rightfully suggests that we understand and monitor our own behavior as much as we scrutinize how we are treated.”
—Cheryl Dellasega, author of Surviving Ophelia and Mean Girls Grown Up

L'autore:

Kelly Valen earned her J.D. from the University of California, Davis, where she was executive editor of the Law Review. A daughter, sister, wife, and mother of four (three of them daughters), she practiced law with a Chicago-based firm for more than a decade. Her writings have appeared in The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, San Francisco Chronicle Magazine, Chicago Tribune, Baltimore Sun, The Christian Science Monitor, Minneapolis Star Tribune, and other publications.

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• Editore: Ballantine Books
• Data di pubblicazione: 2010
• ISBN 10: 0345520513
• ISBN 13: 9780345520517
• Rilegatura: Copertina rigida
• Numero di pagine: 229