Praying Circles Around the Lives of Your Children: Unlocking the Power of Prayer in Your Family - Rilegato

Batterson, Mark

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ISBN 10: 0310339731 ISBN 13: 9780310339731

Casa editrice: Zondervan, 2014

Riassunto

Mark Batterson has a surprising secret weapon for parenting: prayer. Batterson shares a perfect blend of biblical yet practical advice that will revolutionize parents' prayer lives. This guide describes seven important ways prayer circles will transform how parents pray for their kids and lead them to a deeper relationship with Christ.

Praying Circles Around the Lives of Your Children teaches parents how to:

• Create prayer lists unique to their family
• Claim God-inspired promises for their children
• Turn their family circle into a prayer circle
• Discover their child's life themes

This resource is great for new parents, parents whose kids are entering their teenage years, and every age in between. As Batterson says, "You can leave a legacy for generations to come. Your prayers have the power to shape the destiny of your children and your children's children. It's time to start circling."

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Informazioni sull?autore

Mark Batterson is the lead pastor of National Community Church in Washington, DC. One church with multiple locations, NCC owns and operates Ebenezers Coffeehouse, the Miracle Theatre, and the DC Dream Center. NCC is currently developing a city block into the Capital Turnaround; the 100,000-square-foot space will include an event venue, a child development center, a mixed-use marketplace, and a coworking space. Mark holds a doctor of ministry degree from Regent University and is the New York Times bestselling author of twenty books including The Circle Maker, In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day, Wild Goose Chase, Play the Man, Whisper, and recently released Win the Day. Mark and his wife, Lora, have three children and live on Capitol Hill.

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Praying Circles Around the Lives of Your Children

By Mark Batterson

ZONDERVAN

Copyright © 2014 Mark Batterson
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-310-33973-1

Contents

1. The Greatest Legacy You Can Leave, 1, 
2. The Legend of the Circle Maker, 17, 
3. Seven Prayer Circles, 37, 
4. The 1st Circle: Circling the Promises of God, 45, 
5. The 2nd Circle: Making Prayer Lists, 69, 
6. The 3rd Circle: Creating Prayer Mantras, 83, 
7. The 4th Circle: Praying a Hedge of Protection, 103, 
8. The 5th Circle: Forming Prayer Circles, 121, 
9. The 6th Circle: Praying Through the Bible, 141, 
10. The 7th Circle: Passing On the Blessing, 151, 
11. Teachable Moments, 173, 
12. Holy Complications, 185, 
Notes, 195, 
Bible Versions Cited, 199, 

CHAPTER 1

The Greatest Legacy You Can Leave

Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.

Deuteronomy 4:9

I want to be famous in my home.

That is the deepest desire of my heart and the greatest challenge of my life. Parenting our three children is far more difficult—and far more important—than pastoring thousands of people. Compared to parenting, every other challenge is child's play. Being a mom or dad is our single greatest privilege. And while I've never met a mom or dad who disagrees with me on that point, it's easy to end up with inverted priorities. But at the end of the day, I want those who know me best to respect me most. That's my family. And that's my definition of success. Of course, it's much easier said than done.

During a recent parenting slump, I facetiously said to my wife, Lora, "I think we'll finally figure out this parenting thing the same day our kids leave home!" The truth is, we'll never figure it out because children are moving targets. Just when you think you have them pegged, they become toddlers or teenagers or twentysomethings, and you're right back to square one. I've come to the conclusion that parenting is not a puzzle to be solved. Parenting is more like a roller coaster you ride for eighteen years with no exit. The relational corkscrews and emotional inversions result in exhilarating highs and nauseating lows. So my advice is simple: buckle up, learn a few lessons along the way, and enjoy the ride.

You will make more mistakes than you care to remember, especially with the guinea pigs we call firstborns. But no matter how many things you get wrong, there is one thing you must get right—and that one thing makes all the difference in the world:

Make sure the heavenly Father hears about your kids every day!

Bad News, Good News, and Great News

Right at the outset, let me give you some bad news, some good news, and some great news about parenting and praying for your children.

The bad news first: you'll feel like a failure at the end of many, if not most, days.

There are days you need to take a mulligan. Go to bed, get up the next morning, and start over. There's nothing like a good night's sleep to help you hit the reset button. I realize that isn't a luxury you have if you have a newborn baby, but the same baby you have a tough time getting to sleep will one day be difficult to wake up because they missed curfew the night before. My advice? Take a short nap a soften as you can.

I've already revealed my definition of success: I want those who know me best to respect me most. That's the dream. But the reality is that I often feel like a complete failure as a father. Some days I even feel like a fraud. It's usually those moments when one of our mini-mes begins to mimic something I don't like about myself. It's a sobering thing when you say, "Don't take that tone with me" and then realize it's the same exact tone you take with them.

Having children is like looking in the mirror on a really bad hair day or looking at old pictures from a fashion season you'd like to forget. Kids keep us humble! Just when you think they'v emastered the art of Emily Post etiquette, they'll mortify you by making a passing comment or passing gas at the most inopportune time. Of course, they learned this from you as well. In the infamous words of John Wilmot, "Before I got married, I had six theories about raising children; now I have six children and no theories." Nothing keeps you on your knees or on your toes like parenting.

My parenting ineptitude is epitomized by one shining moment when our oldest son, Parker, was a toddler. He had a fitful night full of tears, and I couldn't understand why. Then he crawled into our room in the middle of the night. I was too tired to take him back to his bed, so I reached down to pull him into ours. That's when I realized why he had been crying—his bare butt was the tip-off that I had forgotten to put a diaper on him when I put him to bed.

It's amazing that our kids even survive our parenting, isn't it?

While we're on the subject, the word diaper spelled backward is repaid. So apropos!

Just as our children won't fully appreciate the sacrifices we've made for them until they have kids of their own, I think it's impossible to fully appreciate the heavenly Father until you have kids of your own. I have three graduate degrees in theology, but nothing has taught me about the heart of our heavenly Father like being a dad. I love my kids like crazy, but they can also drive me crazy. And when they do, I'm reminded of God's infinite patience with our incessant whining, occasional temper tantrums, and blatant disobedience. Astounding, isn't it?

You'll lose your patience. You'll lose your temper. You might even lose your mind a time or two. You will make a million mistakes as a parent, but now for the good news: your worst mistakes double as your greatest opportunities.

How will your kids learn to apologize unless you model it for them by apologizing to them? Your mistakes give you the opportunity to model one of the most important lessons they'll ever learn—how to say "I'm sorry."

I have a very simple parenting philosophy that boils down to just three words: please, sorry, and thanks. If all else fails, I want to teach my kids to be really good at saying those three words—and then doing them! If they master please, sorry, and thanks, they are well on their way to a great marriages, great friendships, and a great relationship with God.

Finally, here's the great news: prayer covers a multitude of sins.

You'll never be a perfect parent, but you can be a praying parent. Prayer is your highest privilege as a parent. Don't just leverage it as a last resort when all else fails. Make it your first priority. Nothing you can do will give you a higher return on your investment, and the dividends are both generational and eternal. God will answer your prayers for your children long after you are gone. Prayer turns ordinary parents into prophets who shape the destinies of their children, grandchildren, and every generation that follows.

Prayer Genealogy

The blood running through my veins is 50 percent Swedish. I trace my genealogy back through the Johansson family, who made a decision to get on a boat and come to America in the late nineteenth century. That single decision set off a chain reaction that radically altered the destiny of every descendant to follow. That one decision made its mark on children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren in more ways than I can possibly imagine.

Just as one decision can change your destiny, so can one prayer. If you were to map out your spiritual history, you would find countless answers to prayer at key intersections along the way. Before many of you were even born, even named, you had parents and grand parents who prayed for you. At critical ages and stages, family and friends interceded on your behalf. And thousands of complete strangers have prayed for you in ways you aren't even aware of. The sum total of those prayers is your prayer genealogy.

It's like your tree of life, your tree of Adam.

I believe that every blessing, every breakthrough, every miracle in your life traces back to the prayers that were prayed by you or for you. One of the greatest moments in eternity will be the day God peels back the space-time curtain and unveils His sovereignty by connecting the divine dots between our prayers and His answers. That infinite web of prayer crisscrosses every nation, every generation. And when God finally reveals His strange and mysterious ways, it will drop us to our knees in worship. We will thank Him for the prayers He did answer. We'll also thank Him for the prayers He didn't answer because we'll finally understand why. And we'll thank Him for the answered prayers we weren't even aware of.

My grandfather Elmer Johnson died when I was just six years old, but his prayers did not. Our prayers never die. They live on in the lives of those we pray for. Some of the most poignant and providential moments in my life have been the moments when the Spirit of God has whispered to my spirit, Mark, the prayers of your grandfather are being answered in your life right now!

My Grandpa Johnson had a habit of kneeling by his bed at night, taking off his hearing aid, and praying for his family. He couldn't hear himself, but everyone else in the house could. Few things are more powerful than hearing someone intercede on your behalf. His voiceprint left an imprint on my soul.

I'm trying to follow in my grandfather's footsteps by getting on my knees and praying next to my bed. It's a great way to start the day. My first thoughts and words are directed toward God. I also pray for my sleeping beauty lying a few feet away.

I realize that not everyone inherited a prayer legacy from their parents or grandparents as I did, but you can leave a legacy for future generations. You can start a new tradition, a new tree. You can begin a new prayer genealogy.

The Most Important Ten Minutes of the Day

The most important ten minutes of my day are the ten minutes I spend with my kids right before they leave for school. For many years, I felt like a failure when it came to leading my family in devotions. I could never seem to find a rhythm or a routine. It felt like one failed attempt after another. Then, the week before Parker started high school, Lora and I were on our Monday morning coffee date. Since I preach on Sundays, Monday is our Sabbath. We talk about our marriage, our kids, our calendar, and our finances. During the course of this particular conversation, I confessed my feeling of failure—and that's when Lora shared something her dad did, which I decided to adopt.

My father-in-law prayed with more intensity and more consistency than anybody I've ever known. That's why I dedicated The Circle Maker to Bob Schmidgall. He prayed about everything. In fact, when I asked him if I could marry his daughter, he literally said, "Let me pray about it." That'll put the fear of God in you—especially when he forgot to check back in for a week. Longest week of my life!

Bob Schmidgall was extraordinarily busy pastoring the church he founded in Naperville, Illinois, but he found time to do devotions with his four children every day before school. In the spirit of full disclosure, the teenage Lora didn't always enjoy those devotions. Most teenagers don't. But more than a decade after her dad's death, those devotional times they spent together are treasured memories. They were a daily touchpoint with her dad.

One of the great challenges with family devotions is finding a consistent time and place to pray together. It's not easy when your kids are playing soccer, taking piano lessons, participating in a school club, and taking swim lessons. And that's probably just one of your children! So how do you find a rhythm? I think it starts with looking at your daily routines. It makes sense to pray with your young children before bed because you tuck them in every night. With older children, it's more difficult because they probably will be staying up later than you do.

When Lora shared the story about morning devotions with her dad, it was a revelation. I knew I needed to leverage the first few minutes of the day before the day got away from me. So, beginning on Parker's first day of high school, I started reading the Bible and praying with him. Does every devotional time seem like a success? Hardly! Are there days when we're running late and have to scoot out of the house? Absolutely. But I'm determined to pray with my children, and that touchpoint is the most important ten minutes of my day. It's the most important meeting of the day. Why? Because I love my children so much more than anybody I'll meet with the rest of the day. And while every devotional time doesn't result in an epiphany, some of those touchpoints have turned into turning points.

Long After You Die

I know it's hard to find a consistent time and place to pray, but where there's a will, there's a way. And when it's God's will, He will help make a way.

Susanna Wesley gave birth to nineteen children, including John and Charles, the founders of the Methodist movement. There is no finding a quiet place to pray when you live in a small house with that many kids, but this reality didn't keep Susanna from praying. She would sit in her rocking chair in the middle of the living room, put a blanket over herself, and intercede for her children.

Our excuses just went away, didn't they? Your children need to see and hear you praying. It doesn't matter whether it's in a prayer closet or a prayer chair. You can turn your commute or your workout into prayer times. When you make their beds or fold their clothes, pray for your kids. Go into their bedrooms while they're sleeping, kneel next to their beds, and pray over them.

You don't become a praying parent by default. You do it by design, by desire, by discipline. Spiritual disciplines take sheer determination, but if you determine to circle your children in prayer, your prayers will shape their destinies, just as Susanna Wesley's prayers shaped the destinies of her children. Your prayers will live on in their lives long after you die.

Your prayers for your children are the greatest legacy you can leave.

CHAPTER 2

The Legend of the Circle Maker

"Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them."

Matthew 18:18–20 ESV

I first discovered the legend of Honi the Circle Maker while reading The Book of Legends, a compilation of stories from the Hebrew Talmud and Midrash. And that legend has radically changed the way I pray. It gave me a new vocabulary and a new methodology. For those who haven't read The Circle Maker, let me share the legend behind the book. But instead of the adult version, let me share the storyline from the bedtime picture book The Circle Maker for Kids. If you have young children, you might want to pick up the illustrated version and read it to them before bed.

It had not rained in Israel for one entire year. No clouds in the sky. No water in the well. Gardens did not grow. Rivers ran dry. Dust filled the air.

The people were thirsty and scared. They pleaded with one voice, "O God, give us rain!" But when God didn't answer right away, they lost faith. Some feared He had forgotten them. Then they remembered something, remembered someone.

The rainmaker.

Hardly anyone had seen his face, but nearly everyone had heard his voice. People would travel for days just to hear Honi praying inside his hut on the outskirts of Jerusalem. Like Elijah, who ended a three-year drought with one prayer, Honi was famous for praying for rain. He had the same faith, the same spirit. The people knew that Honi was their last hope, their only hope. So they knocked, and the rainmaker answered. He boldly declared, "The same God who made thunder will make it clap. The same God who made the clouds will make them rain."

A parade of people led Honi into the city, to the Temple Mount. As the crowd grew larger, children climbed onto the shoulders of their fathers. Others stood on tiptoe to see what Honi would say, what Honi would do. And that's when it happened.

(Continues...)

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• Editore: Zondervan
• Data di pubblicazione: 2014
• Lingua: Inglese
• ISBN 10: 0310339731
• ISBN 13: 9780310339731
• Rilegatura: Copertina rigida
• Numero di pagine: 209
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