Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

Valutazione media 4,11
( su 4.193 valutazioni fornite da Goodreads )
 
9780743487481: Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

Most parenting guides begin with the question “How can we get kids to do what they're told?” and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, “What do kids need—and how can we meet those needs?” What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.

One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including “time-outs”), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.

More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from “doing to” to “working with” parenting—including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.

Le informazioni nella sezione "Riassunto" possono far riferimento a edizioni diverse di questo titolo.

About the Author:

Alfie Kohn is the author of nine previous books, including Punished by Rewards and The Schools Our Children Deserve, that have helped to shape the thinking of parents and educators across the country and abroad. He lectures widely and lives (actually) with his family in the Boston area and (virtually) at www.alfiekohn.org.

From Publishers Weekly:

Author of nine books, including the controversial Punished by Rewards, Kohn expands upon the theme of what's wrong with our society's emphasis on punishments and rewards. Kohn, the father of young children, sprinkles his text with anecdotes that shore up his well-researched hypothesis that children do best with unconditional love, respect and the opportunity to make their own choices. Kohn questions why parents and parenting literature focus on compliance and quick fixes, and points out that docility and short-term obedience are not what most parents desire of their children in the long run. He insists that "controlling parents" are actually conveying to their kids that they love them conditionally—that is, only when they achieve or behave. Tactics like time-out, bribes and threats, Kohn claims, just worsen matters. Caustic, witty and thought-provoking, Kohn's arguments challenge much of today's parenting wisdom, yet his assertion that "the way kids learn to make good decisions is by making decisions, not by following directions" rings true. Kohn suggests parents help kids solve problems; provide them with choices; and use reason, humor and, as a last resort, a restorative time away (not a punitive time-out). This lively book will surely rile parents who want to be boss. Those seeking alternative methods of raising confident, well-loved children, however, will warmly embrace Kohn's message. (Mar.)Forecast: Kohn is a controversial and popular author/speaker, well regarded by scholars and educators. This title should appeal to parents who want to explore the "whys" and not just the "hows" of raising kids.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.

Le informazioni nella sezione "Su questo libro" possono far riferimento a edizioni diverse di questo titolo.

I migliori risultati di ricerca su AbeBooks

1.

Kohn, Alfie
Editore: Atria Books
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi PAPERBACK Quantità: 1
Da
Wit's End Books
(Berkeley, CA, U.S.A.)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Atria Books. PAPERBACK. Condizione libro: New. 0743487486 New: Packaged Carefully & Shipped Promptly. 100% Satisfaction Guaranteed!. Codice libro della libreria 006362

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 6,85
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: EUR 3,34
In U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

2.

Alfie Kohn
Editore: Atria Books, United States (2006)
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi Paperback Quantità: 1
Da
The Book Depository US
(London, Regno Unito)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Atria Books, United States, 2006. Paperback. Condizione libro: New. Language: English . Brand New Book. Most parenting guides begin with the question How can we get kids to do what they re told? and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, What do kids need--and how can we meet those needs? What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including time-outs ), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That s precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it s not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from doing to to working with parenting--including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents. Codice libro della libreria AAS9780743487481

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 10,78
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: GRATIS
Da: Regno Unito a: U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

3.

Kohn, Alfie
Editore: Atria Books (2006)
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi Paperback Quantità: 1
Da
Murray Media
(North Miami Beach, FL, U.S.A.)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Atria Books, 2006. Paperback. Condizione libro: New. Never used!. Codice libro della libreria 0743487486

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 9,16
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: EUR 1,66
In U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

4.

Kohn, Alfie
Editore: Atria Books 2006-01-01 (2006)
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi Paperback Quantità: > 20
Da
BookOutlet
(Thorold, ON, Canada)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Atria Books 2006-01-01, 2006. Paperback. Condizione libro: New. Paperback. Publisher overstock, may contain remainder mark on edge. Codice libro della libreria 9780743487481B

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 6,02
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: EUR 5,02
Da: Canada a: U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

5.

Kohn, Alfie
Editore: Atria Books
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi PAPERBACK Quantità: > 20
Da
Mediaoutlet12345
(Springfield, VA, U.S.A.)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Atria Books. PAPERBACK. Condizione libro: New. 0743487486 *BRAND NEW* Ships Same Day or Next!. Codice libro della libreria NATARAJB1FI751873

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 8,15
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: EUR 3,34
In U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

6.

Alfie Kohn
Editore: Atria Books, United States (2006)
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi Paperback Quantità: 1
Da
The Book Depository
(London, Regno Unito)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Atria Books, United States, 2006. Paperback. Condizione libro: New. Language: English . Brand New Book. Most parenting guides begin with the question How can we get kids to do what they re told? and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, What do kids need--and how can we meet those needs? What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including time-outs ), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That s precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it s not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from doing to to working with parenting--including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents. Codice libro della libreria AAS9780743487481

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 11,62
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: GRATIS
Da: Regno Unito a: U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

7.

Kohn, Alfie
Editore: Atria Books
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi PAPERBACK Quantità: 1
Da
Lakeside Books
(Benton Harbor, MI, U.S.A.)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Atria Books. PAPERBACK. Condizione libro: New. 0743487486 BRAND NEW, GIFT QUALITY! NOT OVERSTOCKS OR MARKED UP REMAINDERS! DIRECT FROM THE PUBLISHER!|0.53. Codice libro della libreria OTF-S-9780743487481

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 9,60
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: EUR 3,34
In U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

8.

Alfie Kohn
Editore: Atria
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi Paperback Quantità: 1
Da
BuySomeBooks
(Las Vegas, NV, U.S.A.)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Atria. Paperback. Condizione libro: New. Paperback. 272 pages. Dimensions: 8.3in. x 5.5in. x 0.7in.Most parenting guides begin with the question How can we get kids to do what theyre told and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, What do kids need -- and how can we meet those needs What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including time-outs), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. Thats precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though its not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from doing to to working with parenting -- including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents. This item ships from multiple locations. Your book may arrive from Roseburg,OR, La Vergne,TN. Paperback. Codice libro della libreria 9780743487481

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 11,15
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: EUR 3,30
In U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

9.

Alfie Kohn
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi Paperback Quantità: 1
Da
Grand Eagle Retail
(Wilmington, DE, U.S.A.)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Paperback. Condizione libro: New. Paperback. Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly.Shipping may be from multiple locations in the US or from the UK, depending on stock availability. 264 pages. 0.331. Codice libro della libreria 9780743487481

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 14,74
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: GRATIS
In U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

10.

Alfie Kohn
Editore: Simon And Schuster Group Usa 2006-04-06, New York (2006)
ISBN 10: 0743487486 ISBN 13: 9780743487481
Nuovi paperback Quantità: 5
Da
Blackwell's
(Oxford, OX, Regno Unito)
Valutazione libreria
[?]

Descrizione libro Simon And Schuster Group Usa 2006-04-06, New York, 2006. paperback. Condizione libro: New. Codice libro della libreria 9780743487481

Maggiori informazioni su questa libreria | Fare una domanda alla libreria

Compra nuovo
EUR 12,29
Convertire valuta

Aggiungere al carrello

Spese di spedizione: EUR 3,39
Da: Regno Unito a: U.S.A.
Destinazione, tempi e costi

Vedi altre copie di questo libro

Vedi tutti i risultati per questo libro