Getting Past The Pain Between Us: Healing And Reconciliation Without Compromise - Brossura

Rosenberg, Marshall B., Ph.D.

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ISBN 10: 1892005077 ISBN 13: 9781892005076

Casa editrice: Puddle Dancer Pr, 2004

Riassunto

In this important and insightful work, Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD, demonstrates the powerful healing potential of the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process. You can transform emotional pain, depression, shame, and conflict into empowering connections. Rosenberg shares that behind all emotional pain are unmet needs. He provides simple steps to create the heartfelt presence necessary for healing to occur. Learn how to transform your relationships, find satisfying reconciliation, and move beyond pain to a place of clear, honest communication.

Through role-play dialogues and every-day examples, Rosenberg demonstrates the keys to healing pain and conflict without compromise. The healing power of NVC provides practical and effective tools for individuals, mental health practitioners, mediators, families and couples.

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Informazioni sull?autore

Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. (1934&;2015), was the founder and educational director of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC). He travelled throughout the world mediating conflict and promoting peace.

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Getting Past The Pain Between Us

Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise

By Marshall B. Rosenberg

PuddleDancer Press

Copyright © 2005 Center for Nonviolent Communication
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-892005-07-6

Contents

Introduction, 
Role-Play: Healing Bitterness, 
Reactions to the Role-Play, 
The First Stage of Healing: Empathic Connection, 
Empathy versus Sympathy, 
Staying Present in the Face of Strong Feelings, 
Empathy Steps, 
Review of the First Stage of Healing: Empathy, 
The Second Stage of Healing: Mourning in NVC, 
Getting Unstuck, 
Last Stages of Healing: Acknowledgment of Past Needs and Reverse Empathy, 
Process versus Mechanics, 
Slowing Down and Taking Time, 
Empathy for Those Who Would Hurt You, 
Dealing with Your Own Angry Behavior, 
Learning to Deal with a Difficult Person, 
Anger Toward Mother Role-Play, 
Reactions to the Role-Play, 
Marshall's Mother's Gift to Him, 
Summary, 
How You Can Use the NVC Process, 
Some Basic Feelings and Needs We All Have, 
About PuddleDancer Press, 
About CNVC and NVC, 
Trade Books from PuddleDancer Press, 
Trade Booklets from PuddleDancer Press, 

CHAPTER 1

Role-Play: Healing Bitterness

MR: Good afternoon. So, what could I share with you about healing and reconciliation that would meet your needs? Would you like to hear me talk about it? Or maybe you have some pain left over from something that happened to you in the past with somebody, and would like us to do it "live" and not just talk about it?

UF: I wonder how I can get past or release a lot of bitterness I have toward somebody.

MR: How about if I use Nonviolent Communication and play the role of the person that you have the bitterness toward? I'll be that person, but I'm going to be speaking to you as someone living Nonviolent Communication. All you need to do is just say what you want to say. Okay, you got the game? Good, now who am I going to be?

UF: My brothery.

MR: (BEGINS PLAYING THE ROLE) Sister, I am very touched that you want to heal this bitterness between us, and by the courage you're showing. What would be a big gift to me is if you would share what is alive with you right now in relationship to me. Just say what's going on however you want to.

UF: I have a real ethical problem with you. You weren't honest with me or reliable when our parents were declining. When I reached out to you to try and work it out, you were unwilling. You just wanted to put the past behind us. That's what you've always done, our whole life. You say it's my problem; you don't want to deal with it. Whatever is upsetting to me doesn't seem to matter.

MR: You've said a lot to me here, a lot of different feelings: Let me check to be sure I understand fully. I'm hearing a lot of anger connecting to a need you may have had for more support when our parents were declining. Did I hear that much right?

UF: Yes.

MR: So that was real, and you'd like some understanding now about how difficult this was for you to go through, how you would've really loved support ... but not only didn't you get that support that you would've liked, but I'm also hearing that some of the things that I did since then in relationship to family matters have left you with a great deal of pain ... that you would have really liked us to have made those decisions differently ...

UF: Yeah.

MR: Yeah ... especially since it wasn't the only time you've experienced that your own needs weren't given the consideration you would've liked. D

Dettagli dell?edizione

• Editore: Puddle Dancer Pr
• Data di pubblicazione: 2004
• Lingua: Inglese
• ISBN 10: 1892005077
• ISBN 13: 9781892005076
• Rilegatura: Copertina flessibile
• Numero di pagine: 46
• Contatto del produttore: non disponibile
• Persona responsabile: non disponibile