Graduating from Guilt: Six Steps to Overcome Guilt and Reclaim Your Life - Brossura

Eckert, Holly Michelle

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ISBN 10: 1892005239 ISBN 13: 9781892005236

Casa editrice: Puddle Dancer Pr, 2010

Riassunto

Through a simple, step-by-step progression, this handbook provides individuals with the means to learn how to quiet their inner critic and to experience forgiveness, self-acceptance, and empowerment. Employing a methodology rooted in the principles of nonviolent communication, the process lays out a path for achieving freedom from toxic and emotionally draining guilt, blame, and shame. Examples of real-world situations enable individuals to visualize how they, like others, can forgive themselves for past mistakes and successfully mend broken relationships.

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Holly Michelle Eckert is a certified trainer with the global Center for Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and the NVC Online Academy, a founder of the NVC Training Center of North Seattle, and a communications coach for families and individuals. She lives in Seattle, Washington.

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Graduating From Guilt

Six Steps to Overcome Guilt and Reclaim Your Life

By Holly Michelle Eckert

PuddleDancer Press

Copyright © 2010 Holly Michelle Eckert
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-892005-23-6

Contents

Acknowledgements, 
Endorsements of Graduating From Guilt, 
Introduction: Six Steps to Freedom, 
Learning Self-Care, 
Healing From Regret, 
Reconciling at a Distance, 
Mastering the Process, 
Forgiving Yourself, 
Gaining Perspective, 
Transforming Relationships, 
Finding Independence, 
Liberating Your Power, 
Conclusion: The Gift of Graduating From Guilt, 
Graduating From Guilt Worksheet, 
Index, 
The Four-Part Nonviolent Communication Process, 
Some Basic Feelings and Needs We All Have, 
About Nonviolent Communication, 
About PuddleDancer Press, 
About the Center for Nonviolent Communication, 
Trade Books From PuddleDancer Press, 
Trade Booklets From PuddleDancer Press, 
About the Author, 

CHAPTER 1

Learning Self-Care

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Let's take a look at another example from the Graduating From Guilt class. This participant felt guilty about the fact that he had needs. Universal Needs are at the heart of Nonviolent Communication, but many people grow up being told they should be selfless, generous, and charitable toward others. When these folks start learning NVC, they can feel quite guilty about having needs at all.

Step 1: Identify the Guilt

Roger was one such person. While attending the Graduating From Guilt class, he wanted to work through guilt around his new awareness that he actually had needs.

Step 2: Name the "Shoulds"

When asked to expand on the idea that he shouldn't have Needs, Roger came up with two groups of statements that seemed in opposition. The first group: "I shouldn't meet my needs at the expense of other people," "I shouldn't inconvenience or hurt others," and "I should use my talents for the good of others."

This group of needs was followed by guilt from his inner advocate, telling Roger to stick up for himself — "I should follow my bliss," and "I should be more clear and courageous about what I need and want." Just for good measure, Roger judged himself for his confusion, with "I should be able to sort through these issues more clearly."

I read Roger's list back to him, and the statement that touched him most tenderly was "I should be more clear and courageous about what I need and want."

Step 3: Connect With the Unmet Needs

I invited Roger to connect with his unmet needs by asking him, "What needs of yours are unmet when you are not clear and courageous about what you need and want?"

Roger had no problem answering. "Acceptance for my own sense of authenticity. I'm out of touch with my autonomy, creativity, self-expression, and self-empowerment. When I don't act on what I want in life, I miss out on fulfillment, joy, purpose, meaning, and direction. I really care to grow, and that need is not being met either. And if I'm not expressing myself authentically, how can anyone offer me empathy or understanding?"

Step 4: Experience the Feelings of the Unmet Needs

I captured these needs in list form and said, "I'm going to read your list back to you very slowly. I'll pause between each need so you can let each word settle into a deep place within you." We took a breath, and I continued: "Acceptance, authenticity. Autonomy, creativity, self-expression, and self-empowerment. Fulfillment, joy, purpose, meaning, and direction. Growth. Empathy and underst

Dettagli dell?edizione

• Editore: Puddle Dancer Pr
• Data di pubblicazione: 2010
• Lingua: Inglese
• ISBN 10: 1892005239
• ISBN 13: 9781892005236
• Rilegatura: Copertina flessibile
• Numero di pagine: 90
• Redattore: Freestar Kyra
• Contatto del produttore: non disponibile
• Persona responsabile: non disponibile