Journal: Who Am I?: Psychological Exercises to Develop Self-understanding - Rilegato

The School Of Life

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ISBN 10: 1912891085 ISBN 13: 9781912891085

Casa editrice: Faber and Faber, 2019

Riassunto

One of the trickiest tasks we ever face is that of working out who we really are. If we’re asked directly to describe ourselves, our minds tend to go blank. We can’t just sum ourselves up. We need prompts and suggestions and more detailed enquiries that help tease out and organise our picture of ourselves.

This book is designed to help us create a psychological portrait of ourselves with the use of some far more unusual, oblique, entertaining and playful prompts. The questions are designed to help us cumulatively appreciate how rich our identities are and how complicated, beautiful and sometimes painful our experiences have been.

If self-knowledge is central to a wise and fulfilled life, it is because it teaches us which of our many―often contradictory―feelings and plans we might trust, in order that we can be a little more sceptical around our first impulses and less puzzled by the ebb and flow of our moods. We can understand where some of our feelings have come from and what might be driving our convictions and our longings.

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Informazioni sull?autore

The School of Life is a global organisation helping people to lead more fulfilled lives. We do this via our articles, books, app, films, therapeutic services and corporate offering.

The School of Life Press brings together the thinking and ideas of the School of Life creative team under the direction of series editor, Alain de Botton. Our range of books and products explore essential topics in psychological and emotional life, including relationships, parenting, friendship, careers and fulfilment.

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A guided journal for self-knowledge with which we can study the most elusive and interesting parts of our complex inner selves.

One of the most difficult tasks we face as humans is figuring out who we are. "Describe yourself" can be a surprisingly difficult task. Sometimes, we need prompts and suggestions to engage and energize us.

With unusual, entertaining, and playful exercises, this journal is designed to help us tease out and organize who we are. With beautiful designs by Marcia Mihotich throughout and mini essays on topics like relationships and work, this book shows us how our complicated, beautiful, and sometimes painful experiences all contribute to the richness of who we are.

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3. Avoidant and anxious attachment

Psychologists like to divide us into ‘avoidant’ and ‘anxious’ kinds of lovers. An avoidant pattern of relating to lovers means that, when there is difficulty, we grow cold and distant, and deny our need for anyone. We desperately want to be reassured but feel so anxious that we may be unwanted, we disguise our need behind a façade of indifference. At the precise moment when we want to be close, we say we’re busy, we pretend our thoughts are elsewhere, we get sarcastic and dry; we imply that a need for reassurance would be the last thing on our minds. We might even have an affair, the ultimate face-saving attempt to be distant – and often a perverse attempt to assert that we don’t require a partner’s love (that we have been too reserved to ask for).

For its part, anxious attachment is a pattern of relating to lovers whereby, when there is difficulty, we grow officious, procedural and controlling over small matters of domestic routine. We feel our partners are escaping us emotionally, but rather than admitting our sense of loss, we respond by trying to pin them down administratively. We get unduly cross that they are eight minutes late, we chastise them heavily for not having done certain chores, we ask them strictly if they’ve completed a task they had agreed vaguely to undertake. All this rather than admit the truth: ‘I’m worried that I don’t matter to you…’.

Are you more anxious or more avoidant in your attachment style?

Describe a recent episode of either type of attachment playing itself out.

How do you think you acquired yours?

Dettagli dell'edizione

• Editore: Faber and Faber
• Data di pubblicazione: 2019
• Lingua: Inglese
• ISBN 10: 1912891085
• ISBN 13: 9781912891085
• Rilegatura: Copertina rigida
• Numero edizione: 1
• Numero di pagine: 160
• Contatto del produttore: non disponibile
• Persona responsabile: non disponibile