New and expanded second edition for 2026 of Rachel's inclusive, neurodiversity-friendly workbook for healthy dating. Full of practical and well-researched tips and reflective questions to help you navigate 21st century dating and relationships, this workbook provides a gentle, mindful path toward intimacy, moving beyond "tips and tricks". Rachel guides you through a journey of self-compassion and personal growth to help you understand your past and build a secure future.
Rachel New has been a freelance Dating and Relationships Coach based in London, UK for ten years. She is a graduate member of the British Psychologist Society. She promotes healthy, mindful, ethical, inclusive dating.
Rachel uses a range of approaches in her coaching, including person-centred, mindfulness and self-compassion, attachment theory, and emotion-focused therapy. Her coaching is informed by neurobiology, trauma, LGBTQ+, neurodiversity, ethnic and other minority experiences. She also draws on social psychology and relationship science.
Rachel works with all ages, genders, sexual orientations, ethnic and cultural backgrounds and abilities. She especially enjoys working with the neurodivergent!
"Rachel combines a background in psychology with expertise in coaching and a genuine desire to see people flourish, both individually and in their relationships. Her style is refreshingly clear, concise and helpful, with healthy injections of warmth, empathy and humour. Rachel demonstrates detailed awareness of the contemporary dating context, from ethical questions to practical considerations. The workbook is carefully and logically structured so that readers can easily find what they need. This is not a book to be read in one sitting, but a rich resource to accompany readers throughout their dating journey. It deserves to become dog-eared and coffee-stained from frequent consultation! I have no doubt that anyone who takes time to engage honestly with the questions and prompts provided will gain a deeper understanding of themselves and be in a stronger position to build fruitful, fulfilling connections with others." (Rev Amanda Quick, MA Oxon, MA, BD)
"This dating workbook stands out by inviting the reader to think in depth about themselves and what they want out of a relationship. There are so many very helpful questions that I, as a psychologist, might ask the individual sitting on my couch! It also provides very specific points to watch out for in your date. This can help prevent you from rejecting too easily or not easily enough. The book is very practical, guiding you through online dating and how to manage conversations around intimacy. Equipped with good self-knowledge, and your list of red flags, you are in control of your dating. By the end of the book, you will really appreciate that finding love is not about being good enough for someone else, but about whether the person is right for you." (Dr Isabelle Hung, UK clinical psychologist, BA Hons, MA Oxon, DclinPsy)
"A clear and in-depth guide to dating with lots of tips and exercises that will help untangle anything that is holding you back from having a fabulous dating experience." (Tinu Akinyemi, dater, aged 50, UK)
"This book takes you from getting a first date to how to make a relationship last. It's a pertinent reminder that it takes two people to make things work and when "they" are doing it wrong there's a 50% chance that it's you! The handy checklists help you examine where it might have gone wrong (or been handled better) and how to remedy things without losing yourself in the process.. A great read and a reference for all those who set sail on the dating sea and for those who've already found their co-pilot and want to find a common destination (without jumping overboard!)." (John, 52, UK)
