All Grace ever wanted was the normal things in life: a happy marriage, a big house, and a loving family. She never imagined her life would turn out so differently. The submissive Christian life she was asked to live left her totally dominated, oppressed, and depressed by her aggressive, controlling, and manipulative husband. She and her children were systematically crushed, and their will to thrive was snuffed out at every turn. She had no idea how to handle the insults and abuse from her husband or the isolation from her family. She never thought she’d lose her faith in God or plunge into such depths of despair. This powerful, heart-wrenching, true story of living every day with an abuser will educate readers on the serious nature of abuse, and it will show how Grace received healing and restoration after going through years of emotional abuse. It was only through God that she was able to find the strength to stand up for herself. Don’t miss out on this gripping narrative which is for anyone who has experienced emotional pain and is familiar with feelings of sadness, and who wants to find peace, joy and freedom.
That was a painful read. This really happened to you? Your ex is the type of Christian that makes me red eyed and spit fire. How could he say he is a Christian, he is not that for sure. He really was holding a loaded gun? Holy Cow. He said you were dumb. He is a MORON! I have never owned or fired a gun and I know no bullets in the chamber. But, his biggest mistake was not wanting to change and keep you and the kids. -Bob
I kept wondering as I was reading it why did she not stand up for herself and leave him. Then I remembered that we all do this in life until we learn our lessons, me included. I was very very thankful for the last two chapters. The second to the last chapter tells about healing using scripture and God which is our only way to heal. I even healed as I read that chapter. The last chapter was about types of abuse and it was very informative, and I feel very thankful for all that I have learned through this. It was Heart wrenching. I cried with the author. It caused soul-searching. It showed the beautiful healing of God regardless what we go through. -Lena
This is a story and demonstration of love, hurt, pain, unending hopelessness, and a path of personal growth and learned forgiveness.
Narcissism is demonstrated here, in love with no one but himself. Though this narcissistic husband is referred to often times as one who considered himself very big, smarter, or of greater importance, very likely he sees himself in an opposite light, but needing others to see him as very important; thereby needing to make up for what he lacks by hurting others; seeing himself as a little man who knows only to make himself bigger by belittling others, and hurting others because he himself is hurting. An authentically big man sees no need to fill in an area lacking self-esteem, therefore having no need to hurt others to make himself feel important, and being more likely to conduct himself as caring for others, building up their self worth and self-esteem.
Women under their husband’s control may also not realize the strength that they have because of how long they have been abused. It’s as an elephant cub that, since he was small, was tied to a stake and completely under man’s control, and long before becoming a large elephant of several tons, his spirit has been broken to where he believes that there is no way he can break away from man’s control, even though he’s much stronger than men. Breaking away from that mindset and belief, for a woman, may take some time, but is possible.
A woman who goes through such a marriage relationship is being formed into a diamond, which only forms into such a piece of valuable jewelry through very heavy extended pressure. -Phil
