How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations

Hendrix Ph.D., Harville,LaKelly Hunt, Helen

ISBN 10: 140033747X / ISBN 13: 9781400337477

Editore: Thomas Nelson, 2024

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• Titolo: How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations
• Editore: Thomas Nelson
• Data di pubblicazione: 2024
• Lingua: Inglese
• ISBN 10: 140033747X
• ISBN 13: 9781400337477
• Rilegatura: hardcover
• Condizione: New

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Relationships everywhere are in crisis due to our inability to talk about "difference" without polarizing. Since objection to difference is the core human problem, we need a skill that helps us connect beyond difference. That's just what New York Times bestselling authors Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt offer in their new book: How To Talk With Anyone About Anything. They call it the Safe Conversations Dialogue process, which everyone can learn and teach, that moves all relationships from danger to safety, making connecting possible.

For centuries, most of us humans have talked to others in monologues, believing that the world is the way we see it, that what we say about it is the "truth" and we have assumed that everyone sees it "our" way. If they do not, we experience tension and conflict on many levels. On the other hand, few of us have ever listened to others while they are talking and tried to see the world from their point of view while retaining our own perspective. Instead of listening to understand and collaborate about our differences, we tend to replace their perspective with our own. This results in polarization, not only in our personal lives and work environments, but also in the political and religious arenas we inhabit. This has led to anxiety, frustration, anger, violence, and war. Clearly, the world needs a new way to talk that transcends difference and leads to collaboration, co-creation, and cooperation.

Getting the Love You Want, teach that the practice of Safe Conversations Dialogue impacts the "physics of the Space Between." Here is what they mean:

• All of us live in and are a part of an energy field in which everything everywhere is connecting with everything everywhere. This energy field occupies the Space-Between us.
• When there is safety in the energy field that occupies the Space-Between us, we can connect.
• When there is anxiety in the Space Between, we defend ourselves. We cannot connect but tend to polarize.
• Anyone, if they decide to, can restore safety in the Space Between by using a structure conversation skill called the Safe Conversations Dialogue. 

 

In How to Talk with Anyone about Anything, Harville and Helen share the wisdom of the Safe Conversations process and the four structured and teachable skills that create safety and connection:

• Dialogue: Dialogue is two or more people taking turns talking and listening. Monologue is one person talking and expecting everyone else to listen. When two or more people shift from Monologue to Dialogue, they can transform any relationship from conflict to safety, connection and collaboration.
• Zero Negativity: Negativity disrupts safety and is non-negotiable for safe and thriving relationships. When Dialogue is practiced with Zero Negativity, criticism about what one does not have is replaced with a positive request for what one wants. This transforms conflict into safety and connecting.
• Empathy: Empathy is the capacity to experience or imagine how another person has gone through life. When Dialogue is practiced with empathy, one can more easily accept the different perspective of another person and maintain one's own perspective without polarizing.
• Affirmation: Affirmation is valuing another person because they exist rather than for what they have done for you. When Dialogue includes affirmation, the other person experiences themselves as human rather than as an "object" that is valued because of what they do.

 

How to Talk with Anyone about Anything offers the keys to unlocking your ability to connect with others in a new and profoundly different way. And, as more of us hone that ability, together, we can bring about a fundamental shift in society away from our current focus on the "self" and polarization about difference towards safety and true connection that includes total personal freedom, universal equality, radical inclusion, and celebration of diversity—a society in which we all collaborate with each other without surrendering our differences, co-create with each other about new solutions and cooperate with other to put them into practice. Then we will all live in the world of our dreams.

Informazioni sugli autori

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. is co-creator with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, of Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy. In 2015, Harville and Helen also co-founded Safe Conversations LLC--a training institute that teaches a relational intervention based on the latest relational sciences that can help anyone shift from conflict to connection.

Harville and Helen are co-authors of three New York Times best sellers, including Getting the Love You Want which has sold more than four million copies, in addition to multiple other books on relationships.

Harville is a graduate of Mercer University in Macon, Georgia, which awarded him an Honorary Doctorate of Human Letters. He holds a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary in New York and an M. A. and a Ph.D. in Psychology and Religion from The School of Divinity at the University of Chicago. Harville is the recipient of several honors including the Outstanding Pastoral Counselor of the Year Award from the American Baptist's Churches, the Distinguished Contribution Award from the American Association of Pastoral Counselors.

Harville and Helen have been married for forty years, have six children, seven grandchildren, and reside in Dallas, Texas, and New York City.

Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. is co-creator with her husband, Harville Hendrix, of Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy. In 2015, Helen and Harville also co-founded Safe Conversations LLC--a training institute that teaches a relational intervention based on the latest relational sciences that can help anyone shift from conflict to connection.

Helen and Harville are co-authors of three New York Times best sellers, including Getting the Love You Want which has sold more than four million copies, in addition to multiple other books on relationships.

Helen earned her doctorate from Union Theological Seminary in NYC in Women's History. In addition to her partnerships with Harville, Helen is one of a small army of women who helped seed the women's funding movement. She was inducted into the National Women's Hall of Fame in 1994 for her contribution to the global women's movement and into the Smithsonian Institute for creating Women Moving Millions and her leadership in creative women's philanthropy.

Helen and Harville have been married for forty years, have six children, seven grandchildren, and reside in Dallas, Texas, and New York City.